One woman took to Reddit to share her experience of being “verbally abused” by her boss who she says criticizes everything from her looks to her coffee.
Redditor u/krammiit wrote about her placement in the “antiwork” subreddit in a post that has now been voted over 16,000 times.
“She does this every day to the point that it makes me want to get out,” wrote the Redditor.
According to the US Commission on Equal Employment Opportunity, workplace harassment is “unwelcome behavior based on race, color, religion, gender (including sexual orientation, gender identity, or pregnancy), national origin, or older age (starting at age 40). ), disability, or genetic information (including family medical history).
The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) says that behavior becomes unlawful when “tolerance of aggressive behavior becomes a condition of continued employment” or “the behavior is severe or widespread enough to create a work environment that a rational person considers to be intimidating, hostile, or abusive.”
“Aggressive behavior may include, but is not limited to, offensive jokes, insults, nicknames, insults, physical attacks, threats, intimidation, ridicule, ridicule, insults, belittling offensive objects or images and interference with the performance of work.”
The Redditor highlighted some examples of what she described as “verbal abuse” from her superior who she later revealed to be a pastor, as she works in the IT department of the Presbyterian Church.
She said she worked in the church for seven months, and at first she was told she needed to “do something” about her skin because of her acne rosacea.
She writes, “While I was working on cleaning my skin, I was criticized and told I needed to ‘hurry up’ to clean my face.”
She said that once her skin became “completely clear” her boss started criticizing the amount of coffee she drank.
“I was told I am not allowed to drink more than one cup a day. If I drink more than one cup, I get criticized,” she wrote. “She even wrote this on my Christmas card.” No coffee! “
Recently, she said, she arrived at work “clear skin, decaffeinated” but that her boss started criticizing her clothing choice.
“She said the scarf was ‘too busy’ and asked me to take it off,” she wrote. “I called my co-worker out of her office and had her criticize her outfit choice and they both spent about 10 minutes telling me why I didn’t wear anything matching them yesterday.”
She explained that there is no HR department within the church she works for because if there is, she will “escalate” it.
One commenter wrote below the viral post: “It looked like the devil was wearing Prada until I got to the church part…”.
Others suggest that the Redditor hire a lawyer even though she explains in an edit to the post that she doesn’t feel there is a reason to do so but is resigning.